Living in 2017 as a woman is quite challenging, as it is in another previous or upcoming years, I believe. Truth is, life is always challenging for everyone. But, here I am talking about me facing life as woman in 2017.
Emancipation has done its job since years ago, at least in my town. I don't have to worry to study high nor to reach dreams. I can go back home in night from work without worrying that people might stone me to death. I can go alone wherever I want to. I can start a family and not quitting my job. However, there are still things that I perceive differently with most of people. As a human, my perception towards life is got through my learning process, which is affected by three things: environment, cognitive, and behavior. That's Social Cognitive Theory by Prof Bandura, which I've been exploring for 1,5 years in my research to see technology adoption.
What I believe about a piece of life through learning is:
- I have the same right as men to study as high as I want
- I have the same right as men to contribute everything to the world I have as human being
- Working is a form of developing my self to be better and again, to contribute something to the world
- Working should be based on good intention, not for money nor fame, so that it can be valued as a worship action to God
- As working for woman is just a choice, I don't have the obligation to work.
- It is a must that spouse agrees for me to work
- My main role is still to take care of family, children and home.
- It is believed to count taking care of family as a contribution to make world a better place
- If I choose to work, I must not neglect my role, my qodrat.
I don't know if most of woman agree with most of what I stated above.
However, the question is, in which level does it count to woman to successfully fulfill their roles while at the same time reaching dreams they love? in which level does it count to them to fail?
The answer is,
There is no such precise level as most of woman are always insecure if what they do is not enough for their family, for their children. if we will never be good enough as a mom.
For me, at least,
I know I will never be good enough to be a mom one day. I am not the type of woman who can do everything in one hand and successfully nail everything. I have to prioritize things. Thus, I choose to minimize the possibility of me forgetting my main role in this world. As cheesy and conservative as it sounds, I am not going to work if it possibly means neglecting my own family, such having a strict working time, not being able to cook for my family, being stressful or overwhelmed by workload, etc. I understand not everyone can accept how I perceive this. I know most men nowadays want a more open-minded woman (as if I'm not open-minded? byelah!). But, it is okay because we all are differently shaped by life, right? It is just me, with my huge affection feeling towards almost everything. It is my choice.
I just want to say to my fellow woman, you have the right to choose how you want to live your life. However, just keep in mind that we have that main role. Again, how you want to fulfill your role depends. on how you perceive life. on how environment, cognitive and behavior affect one to another. Just try your best, kay?
You go, girl!
X.O.X.O
What do you think, habibae? /ditimpuk/ /ngmg sama siapalu/
